Hello my sexy folks around campus, I hope your summer is as hot as mine. Let’s just say I’ve used my fair share of both SPF 50 and KY Jelly.
Last year’s loyal Reverse Cowgirl fans (I’m looking at you, UW Memes page) know that she graduated from the university in May. Well, meet your new RC 2.0. Last year’s RC was an amazing columnist full of witty, open minded and helpful advice and I had the privilege to work with her. With that said, don’t think that I will provide you a break from her spunky, steamy and honest input about sex and hopefully address some of your interests and appetites about what happens under the sheets.
I am back from vacation and I have quite a few stories, which I am dying to tell. While vacationing, I met a hunk of a gentleman. With all the sparks between us, I was certain it was July 4 already.Unfortunately, that summer fling faded just as quickly as my summer tan will in October. But for now, during my next strip tease he’ll still have clear borders for “offside” and “Gooooooal!”
“Hunky” and my frequent endeavors on the scorching beach sand eventually had to come to an end though, leaving us only the option of texts and talking.
My short romance really got me thinking about friends with benefits. I have had back home, since that was exactly what we were holding true to – an unspoken agreement to have sex in the sand, without any commitment and no desire to pursue a romantic relationship. Unfortunately, not all friends with benefits relationships end as kindly as my recent one and I have had plenty end in disaster.It can be hard to decide if the potential consequences are worth the risk. Sure, you are getting laid, but navigating the awkward morning after can be tricky. Luckily, I am here to help my “friends.” I will explain how to initiate a friends with benefits relationship, how to handle the dreaded fall out and that a lot can be great about having a friends with benefits. However, if something goes wrong, it can be incurable.
I admit that I have pulled a “secret x-ray” on a friend, undressing them slowly with my eyes. While imagining a steamy moment wrapped in the bed sheets with him, I am rudely interrupted by him shrugging my shoulders to call for my attention about the level he just beat in his video game. Let’s see how to sail out of the “friend zone” without entering the hazardous waters of dating.
First, initiate some flirty contact. Mention to him or her that they look snazzy. Go fishing for compliments; it might pull out a huge bass. While dropping a one liner, amp up the physical contact with a smooth pick up line to match. This will be the defining moment, and I suggest learning how to read into people. If he or she pushes an awkward giggle and turns their back or pretends to text someone (yes, we all have done it), then chances are as slim as the contestants on “America’s Next Top Model.” If they show some interest, such as a genuine smile or an attempted flirty comeback, the coast is clear.
Once, on the road to sex without strings, decide if this is a one night stand or a vigorous sex parade. If both partners decide to march in line, put forth the effort to maintain the friends with benefits relationship.
The master key to a successful “FWB” is honesty. Be forward and blunt. Tell them the only expectation is sex. Beforeugoing and raisine your right hand swearing to abide by the guidelines of your “FWB,, be sure that no emotions will arise. If they do, cut the cord.
Keep in mind not all great things last forever. That booty call routine might eventually run dry. Whether someone develops feelings, either of you finds another, want a serious relationship or you simply get bored of your friends with benefitB be prepared to be able to move on.t that is the beauty of a friends with benefitB anyway – being able to do some hanky panky without the courting or the months of singing Alanis Morissette in the shower after it’s done.
With these bare bone tips to engage in your own friends with benefitB adventures, don’t forget that you don’t have to be MacGyver to always be prepared. Especially in a non-monogamous situation where your friends with benefitB could be your sloppy 15th that week. use contraceptives to avoid any unwanted “remember college” surprises during alum reunions.
